May Hwa-Jones was born in Brooklyn and grew up in Queens. She interned at Rolling Stone Magazine and Elle Magazine in college, and was a freelance editorial assistant at Family Life Magazine. With a Bachelor’s Degree from NYU and a Master’s Degree from Stanford University in Literature, May explored editorial life in NYC, but moved towards a teaching career instead, which led to a teaching certification in secondary education and the eventual achievement of a second Master’s Degree in Social Work from the University of Denver. As a licensed clinical social worker, May has practiced psychotherapy for nearly seventeen years in multiple settings, from substance abuse clinics in hospitals to community mental health centers, finally finding her passion working with families in a school for severely emotionally disabled children in Westchester County. She is married to a self-proclaimed red neck from Colorado and has three children, who are the beloved centers of chaos in her life. Formerly a ballet dancer and musician for over 20 years, she now does Zumba to keep her joints from locking up and is an avid cheer-soccer-tae kwon do-music-art-dance mom. Her husband regularly begs her to stop volunteering to run more activities, but she never listens to red necks.
A mother buckling her son into his car seat.

Quieting the Inner Turmoil of Parent Guilt

Even though I’ve been a practicing psychotherapist for nearly 17 years (11 of those spent exclusively with children and families), I am still subject to crazy parenting guilt. It creeps up on me in...
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Supporting Function in the Anxious Child

Anxiety tends to stink, for the most part. There are times when being anxious can be useful, such as when you’re in fight-or-flight mode or when it keeps you alert to the needs of...
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Shifting Perspectives and Rethinking Anxiety

Anxiety is a widespread and yet very debilitating phenomenon. There are two key ways of re-framing perspective (that is, a different way to approach your worry thoughts) so that they don’t become overwhelming. These...
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Keep Them Young…At Least For a Minute

When my son was in kindergarten at a local catholic school, a reading teacher of his stopped me in the hallway to let me know that she thought that I ought to let him...

Pressure and the Anxious Child: A General Guide for Emotional Support

Enter the mind of an anxious child, and you step into a storm. Thoughts are a constant swirl that instantaneously runs through a thousand catastrophic scenarios as they rapidly assess situations and determine their safety...

Talk To Me Tomorrow

Today I didn’t mom so well. I felt guilty about half a million things left undone and agonized over the things I didn’t do for my kids. My daughter’s extracurricular activities have ramped up lately. I’ve...
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Tough Territory: Navigating That First Heartbreak With Your Tween

It’s been a long time since I’ve been in middle school, but I still wasn’t expecting to have to help my child through heartbreak as a tween. I know kids have been maturing at...

To My Two Eldest Children, In A Year of Transitions

(Overheard at the kitchen table) Husband: Is that a tear in your eye? Me: It’s almost September, and another school year. They’re just growing up so fast. Husband: Oh Lord, here it comes… Yes, Husband, here it comes...

Telling Isn’t Tattling: The Hidden Message Behind This Damaging Label

When my eldest was in first grade, his teacher spoke with me at a parent-teacher conference about her frustration with his tendency to tell her all his classroom problems. She labeled this as “tattling”...

In Her Own Time

My daughter has a tendency to use me as a human shield between her and other people when she has to interact with adults. She’ll stand plastered to me, arm rigidly locked around mine,...