Hang in There Mama


more than enough

Hang in there mama…you are enough.

Some days the exhaustion and anxiety of not being enough just seem to envelop one’s soul.

But hang in there mama…you are enough.

There may be Legos covering every inch of the floor from the previous temper tantrum, but one day the floors will be spotless.

So, hang in there mama…you are doing enough.

Your dreams are staring you right in the face each day, whether it’s a little face covered in sweet sticky maple syrup from the pancake breakfast you had time to somehow make amongst the chaos or the face of a sick child covered in snot from the cold that appeared overnight.

This is your dream, the dream you prayed for and caused you to lay awake deep into the wee hours of the night wondering, worrying, and feeling anxious. Now often, this beautiful dream of caring for another human is the cause of utter exhaustion and guilt so fierce that you just wonder if you are doing enough.

But hang in there mama…you are enough.

One day, not too far down the road, the face once covered in snot knows how to use a tissue and blow their own nose, and you will miss the times chasing them around the house just to wipe that one booger. Right now, it may seem daunting as if every day you are just a nose wiper but know that even on the simplest of days, you are more than enough.

The lessons taught while snuggled up on the couch reading under a cozy blanket, the silly times laughing on the swings on a spring day, added at times with the most challenging days of tantrums and timeouts pull together to create this beautiful package of love and abundance that you have managed to call your own.

So, hang in there mama…you are enough whether it’s a day that will go down in the record books for being spot on or a day you just want to forget. You are more than enough.

Mamas, please don’t be so hard on yourself. Your love alone resonates with every part of this being, looking up to you for guidance or a hand to hold. You are shining your light and love each day on to this incredible creation. Our bad days often seem, to us, as if we are complete failures, but those innocent eyes staring back at us don’t see failure, they feel pure love.

The little hand that reaches out to hold you isn’t judging you that lunch wasn’t a gourmet meal looking like it came from Pinterest but rather a cream cheese and jelly sandwich.

Those chubby arms wrapped around your neck don’t care that dishes were left in the sink or laundry in the dryer waiting to be folded. You see, this little bundle of joy only knows that bath time with extra bubbles, lots of giggles and singing lasted a bit longer today.

Maybe ordering in pizza, for the second time this week, wasn’t an epic fail but instead allowed extra time outside, as the sun was setting, to finally master the art of bike riding without training wheels. The excitement of letting go of four wheels to two wheels taking over and filling both of you with happiness while finding the balance of letting go.

Hang in there mama…you will always be enough, and pizza twice in one week probably wins you some points on the mom scale.

Hang on tight mama, you are doing a wonderful job each day, trust in that, believe in that, and know that you mama, are more than enough, even if you may need a nap…

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Ali lives in New York with her four teenage daughters and her husband. After moving around a bit as a child, she spent her teen years in Westchester county, moved to NYC for college and returned to Westchester fifteen years ago. Prior to having the girls, she was an English teacher, and on the side always enjoyed writing with the hope to one day publish a poetry book. In her free time, Ali enjoys going on long runs, browsing independent bookstores, catching up with friends. She is in a constant state of doing laundry, cooking, policing arguments, driving to and from activities, and trying her best to be the kind of mom her girls will admire, even on her worst days. Ali is excited to share with you the joys and hardships of motherhood with an open heart. You can follow Ali on Facebook at https:www.facebook.com/hangintheremama/ and on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/hang.in.there.mama