Time plays tricks on me. Sometimes it feels like it’s still early in this motherhood gig – and at other times, it feels like it must be my 94th year as a mom! Here are 15 memes representing my thoughts and wishes for those humans who have made me a mother; things to know, remember, and live by as they embark on life.
- It’s not always an easy world out there! Make your own happiness and try to do the same for others. A friend or family member is having a rough day? Give them a call and ask how you can help. Or better yet, think of a way to help and do it. Offer compliments – if you see something beautiful in someone, tell them. If someone helps you, thank them.
2. Take time to reflect on your influence on and relationships with others. Be sure to realize that the result of this reflection may be positive or negative – tweak your interactions if need be. Generally, respect others, assist, take care of others, and model good behavior. Being sensitive and empathetic isn’t always easy, but it’s always good to try.
3. It may be hard to accept, but you will not be everyone’s cup of tea. The world is filled with people, who for whatever reason, will not like you. (Trust me – as your mother, this hurts me more than it hurts you!). Want to be part of the “in-crowd?” Make your own crowd.
4. Never underestimate passion. Find something you are good at and have a passion for. Find someone that is good and that you have a passion for. It’ll keep you going during those tough times. (PS – Passions can change).
5. Laughter is the best! I hope you have times when you laugh so hard that you can’t breathe, start tearing and maybe even pee a little! I hope life brings you lots and lots of smiles and that you have the opportunity to make others do the same. And please do your best to be kind, even when it’s not easy. We truly never know what’s going on in other’s lives. And did I mention laughter?
6. Do-overs are ok! It’s all a part of life. Turn any mistake into a learning experience. It’s simply never too late to try something new – it really isn’t. But, it is up to you. No one will do it for you. And no need to blame others for what may or may not have happened. Remember that it doesn’t always have to be someone’s “fault.”
7. Keep good company. I wish for you to have friends that are truly like family. While friendship does take work, my overall thought is that friendship should be easy. Some may not agree with me, but a real friendship has little drama and should make both parties feel good! Be sure to keep in mind that a true friendship works two ways.
8. Be a good citizen! You’ll find that it isn’t always easy to do the right thing. Even at this young age, you’ve probably experienced some of this. You’ll be exposed to more as you get older. Don’t be afraid to walk away. Honesty is admirable. Do good. Better the world.
9. You have the ability to heal physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Be open to criticism and feedback. Learn from mistakes, heartbreak, and disappointment and have the strength to move on. If broken, you will not stay that way for long. Take time to “take care of yourself.” I was 35 years old the first time I heard this expression! Don’t let it take that long to understand and follow this advice.
10. “Why” is a question you’ll ask and wonder often. Why did this happen? Why didn’t that happen? Why did they say to do that? Don’t let it bring you down. Forgive – even when it’s so tough! Believe that others are doing their best.
11. Be who you are and what you are meant to be. Be authentic, be real and own who you are. Don’t compare yourself to others. If you do this, it’ll all fall into place. I promise.
12. “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.” It may take years to determine exactly what the small stuff is, but once you do, “let it go.” It’s not worth your time, your effort, or your space. Love yourself unconditionally. You’re allowed to move on from friendships and toxic relationships. Don’t fall into the regret trap, as it can hold you back and inhibit you from moving forward.
13. Trust yourself. Trust your gut. But be strong in your beliefs – ambitious and follow your dreams. Advice and counsel from friends and family are welcome, but “you do you” with little to no misgivings. Never stop learning and sharing. Your experiences may help others.
14. Check yourself, question yourself, and remind yourself that there aren’t many handouts. Work hard for what you believe in. Although you need to be the ultimate change, knowing when you need help and asking for it is a strength.
15. Learn and explore. Participate and be open-minded. Be present, worldly, and aware that this “life” is more than just about “you.” It won’t always be easy, and it won’t always happen simultaneously, but you can do this!
