Mama Don’t


don'tMamas, Don’t get overwhelmed by the dishes that are still in the sink. It can wait.

Don’t feel pressure to make every closet or drawer look like it does on HGTV. It is not necessary and often unrealistic.

Don’t believe that to be a good mom, you have to spend every waking second with your child. It is beneficial for children to use their own minds to problem solve, create independence, and become creative.

Don’t believe you have to make a gourmet meal each night. It is okay to get take-out if that’s what works for you today.

Don’t believe you have to smile all of the time around your kiddos. It is a breath of fresh air for your kids to see you are human and that emotions don’t have to be pushed aside, swallowed down, and hidden. Showing them all of your emotions will help them learn to express themselves, leading to a stronger emotional foundation in the future.

Don’t believe you have to be busy every waking second of the day. It is amazing what a little relaxation or time on the couch can do. Time to recharge often allows for more focus later in the day when the kids may need you for homework help, patience during the witching hour, or just some extra snuggles…

Don’t believe you have to remain quiet to not cause discomfort. It is miraculous to advocate for your child, showing them the importance of standing up and speaking your mind while being respectful and honest.

Don’t believe you have to be your kiddos everything. It is a blessing to them; there are so many people who love them. The roles each person plays impacts every ounce of their future self. So let dad, grandma and grandpa, auntie and uncle spend quality time alone with them, sharing stories and showing them another aspect of the world we live in.

And mamas, don’t believe you are not enough. You are a blessing each and every day to your child.

You are loved and adored. Sometimes we need to be reminded.

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Ali lives in New York with her four teenage daughters and her husband. After moving around a bit as a child, she spent her teen years in Westchester county, moved to NYC for college and returned to Westchester fifteen years ago. Prior to having the girls, she was an English teacher, and on the side always enjoyed writing with the hope to one day publish a poetry book. In her free time, Ali enjoys going on long runs, browsing independent bookstores, catching up with friends. She is in a constant state of doing laundry, cooking, policing arguments, driving to and from activities, and trying her best to be the kind of mom her girls will admire, even on her worst days. Ali is excited to share with you the joys and hardships of motherhood with an open heart. You can follow Ali on Facebook at and on Instagram at